One of the most common questions asked within both the widowed and divorced communities is, "When is it appropriate to start dating again? However, there is a far more important question that not many people ask - and it is a vital question; one that is far more important that that of "appropriateness" and a question that you absolutely must ask of yourself prior to dating post-loss or post-divorce:. Have you asked yourself that question? If not, you should During what may very well be the worst or most challenging time in your life is not the time to jump headlong back into dating. Like it or not, you must first recover from the divorce from or death of your spouse and you cannot accomplish that kind of recovery in hurry-up fashion. Embrace the fact that you are not the same person that you were when you committed to the person no longer by your side and that you must take the time and patience with yourself to sufficiently recover from the trauma that you have endured.